Reflecting ...

I have been thinking quite a bit this week about various things, for various reasons. Lots of work things, and financial things, and other grown-up non-fun stuff. It occurred to me at several points however that I needed to be mindful of some of the motivating factors that make that grown-up side of life tolerable.

One of the first things that pops into mind is my littles. Mitchell and Emilee provide warmth and smiles without even making an effort. They can transform an otherwise grey-day into a bright and fun adventure, just by being their little selves. I get lost in their smiles at times and am filled with pride just looking at them and knowing that I have the honor of being their father.

Another one of my initial thoughts veers to the twins. Emma and Alex are still fairly new to my life, but it seems aas though they have always been there. Months have melted and already seem like years. They are at a different stage than the littles in their development and bring a different dynamic to my life. Watching them grow and learn to be young adults is truly a pleasure I wouldn't trade for the world.

All four of those little rascalls make me pause as I reflect ... from Emilee's attempts to bribe me with kisses and hugs to Emma's way of looking at me when she knows I am pulling her leg ... from Alex's kamikazi style when we are "swatting the ball around" at the racquetball court to Mitchell's obsession with all things Wii ... I know at the end of the day they are 4 very special little beings that will hopefully gain some measure of good from the time I get to spend with them ... it truly is one of the greatest opportunities I have ever been given to help guide them as they all grow (much too quickly)

That brings me to my Jilly ... My person, the one I was meant to spend my life with, the keeper of my heart, the one who completes me .... I could go on and on attempting to explain how much I love her, how much she means to me ... my love knows no bounds ... something dawned on me this past week, something I don't know that I have considered until now. I was describing to someone how much she means to me, how I just kind of "know" she's the one and a thought dropped into my head after the fact ... I think one of the things that actually makes me so certain about her and so secure in my choice to give my life to her is .... fear

Fear!?!? I know sounds strange doesn't it ... but its not like that, not the type of fear that you are thinking, pay attention reader ... its not fear of being alone, its not fear of any of those silly insecurity driven relationship type things .... its the knowledge that for the first time in my life I am afraid of not having HER in my life ... I have never NEEDED someone else in my life before, and I know with her that I don't want to be anywhere else, or with anyone else ... just her, my life belongs with her ... destiny chose her for me, and I know its where I belong ... The fact that I care so deeply for her, that being without her scares me, actually comforts me that she is, and will always be, the one for me.

I cannot conclude this blog without mentioning another aspect of my life that helps power me through the "tight spots" in life and adds extra smiles even on the best of days ... that is my friends, I got some of the best that there are ... they are all unique and have their little quirks, but they are my people ... don't mess with em, or you will see me get cross in a hurry ... one of the best of the best of them (actually a couple of them) are dealing with some tough stuff the last few days and I want them to have all the positive energy I can throw their way ... i am thinkin about you SRYS and your people, and my heart aches for your loss today <3