Situational Awareness

I am confused about people. I am beginning to realize that my confusion is in large part self-created. I have a bad habit of understanding things from "my point of view". I have been beginning to see however that other people look at things from their own perspective and at times that can be radically different and it can cause friction. Let me get Biblical for a moment because this is a golden rule that I believe deeply in. Treat others as you would like to be treated (put simply in my own words), sounds like a worthy rule to live by right? This morning I find myself pondering that rule however, is it really wise to treat others as we want to be treated ourselves? What about treating others as "they" want to be treated. Again I will point out that others often look at things from their point of view, so when we are saying or doing things that "we ourselves" find acceptable, that is definitely no guarantee that someone else will feel the same way. Obviously you cant go around trying to please everyone, and I personally have no desire to. I am talking about my "people" that small circle that I value beyond myself. Those that I would do anything for. Those that are loved and admired unconditionally. Is it not fair, to say that the responsibility lies with me to understand what they need and treat them as they desire to be treated? I find myself too often times to be the one in the room that doesn't quite see it the same way as everyone else, and it seems that that may be a clue that my perspective may be flawed. It is my perspective however, and it comes directly from my personality and the elements that make me who I am, so it would be unrealistic to expect it to change radically. There seems to definitely be room for a shift in my awareness, better effort to stop and realize what people are affected, and how they may or may not feel ... ... After all I find that we as people frequently fail to meet our own standards (if we have placed the bar highly enough) ... and I am not sure that my bar has been where it has belonged ...