My last entry delt with the realization that I speak WAY too much. I basically seem to have an inability to NOT share my "opinion" on virtually any and every subject. Those of you that really know me are sitting there nodding your heads.
Here is the million dollar question, due to the excessive amount of words that I utter, at what point does it simply serve as an annoyance to others. I think I have a bit of a bead on that. most people, especially the ones that I choose to spend the majority of my time around, are very poilte towards me. Especially the last 6-8 months due to my life basically being a tad complicated. So that being the case, I feel that they give me a large amount of space when it comes to listening to me ramble. Which brings me to a point of trying to figure out how to guage when my "thoughts/ words" are annoying them. I think I have found a bit of a "tell". I am beginning to notice that despite my frequent (almost constant) handing out of thoughts and advice, that very few (if any) people seems to bother paying attention to any of it. It is kind of a "let him talk, and then go on about your business" approach that people have developed with me. If that "tell" is in fact an indicator that my words are like those of the teacher from Charlie Brown (wah wah wha wha wah) then holy crap I annoy alot of people.
This greatly concerns me .... and NO, not from the; damn it, they didn't listen to me standpoint ... but more from the standpoint that I seem to have placed myself in the "invalid" spectrum of peoples brains. Which for 99% of the public that doesn't really bother me much, but for those that matter to me, that is not where I want, or need to be. My excessive rambling truly comes from my heart, and the fact that I care about people with all that I am ... It seems that I have over steered however, to a point where people generally smile, nod, and tune me out.
That's Just the Way It Is
5 years ago
What did you say? lol I don't tune you out. I love out talks -- even the 4 hour ones that cover every topic. I only shush you for the good parts. ;)
ReplyDeleteI have to LOL at you, cuz you crack me up!! You are a rambler, but its not a bad thing. I can admit that Im sure I tune out at some point sometimes, but I do that with everyone. Its not that you are an annoyance though, I will not use those words!! My mind never stops and sometimes if I have something pressing in my head, I cant focus completely on what other people say, although I try really hard. Thats verbal stuff though, our online chats, I do not tune you out and you have my undivided attention. Im a visual person, see (lol I said see after I said visual!!), so you have to understand that being able to SEE whats being said is more my cup of tea than the HEARING way.
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